Last Sunday, the topic we tackled in the radio program , FLA (Family and Life Apostolate) Hour , over dyKa 801 khZ, is the impact of nagging on the family especially on the children. Of course, we already know that nagging doesn’t work. Even though you may feel that the intentions are good yet it creates tension in the home. It’s really important to understand how it affects everyone involved.
Nagging is the use of repetitive, unchanging , uninspiring words , aimed at another person inorder to get them do something ( done like your own way). It is a futile pursuit that gets the “nagger ” nothing but the resentment and the resistance of the “naggee”.
One guest confessed that it took her so long to ” learn how not to nag ” and husband has become cool, distant and withdrawn into periods of silence. There was a little sharing because husband and wife live under one roof yet seldom talk about anything meaningful. The first few years of the marriage were spent in a useless pursuit. It was difficult for a husband to love a nagging wife because her nagging reminds him of childhood days full of tensions in the home.
Children also suffer from the tensions in the home. Nagging is defeating in kids with poor self-image. It causes stress in everyone. So let’s cross it off our list and try another new good ways.
Let us realize the uniqueness of everyone. Each has his own way of doing things just as you would have your own way too. And when they do it, they do it not just to suit you . A critical spirit won’t help. Stop being critical and remember that you are not the only one who can do anything right.
Another guest advised that when you want a child to do something, first make the request and then follow up patiently if compliance doesn’t follow. Just be positive and praise the child for little steps.
Considering the problems created by nagging – let’s ask ourselves : IS IT WORTH IT ? ? Nagging may ( or may not) get the job done but surely it can destroy relationships like a cancer which destroys the body.
Goodbye and Godbless. See you again next Sunday! This is your host , Dens.