Today is a day before Sunday. In preparation for my radio program Family and Life Apostolate Hour, I drafted this topic to be discussed with my guests. We will elaborate on the following some simple tips to stop stress from straining marriages. ( I enjoin readers to add if you have any opinions and suggestions.)
Stress in marriage can make both husband and wife less tolerant and more impatient. Here are the tips:
1. Empathize. Helping your partner feel understood and and letting him/her know that you are on his /her side decrease the chance of having arguments.
2. Listen to your partner. Show him that you are listening to him by putting away the tv remote and your cell phones during serious conversations. Focus on him. Doing this validates his feelings and helps you get closer.
3.Use collaborative language. Instead of saying: ” I am sick of it” try ” Let’s help each other to come up with ways we can do to get things done”.. and use the pronoun “we” instead of ” you or I”..Very much like two business partners, husband and wife agree to work together doggedly to achieve harmony and peace.
4.Keep in touch. Send a quick text message to let him know you are thinking of him if he is just a text away. If you are nearby each other, hold hands or give him a hug. Skin to skin touch helps you bond and can relieve stress.
So see you this Sunday .Thank you and please keep in touch. Goodbye.
I still have lots to learn about marriage even though we’re into 11 years of marriage. I have written a post in my blog which shares about knowing your spouse’s love language. It helps to make our relationship’s love tank full and minimize marriage stress and strain.
God bless po, Mommy Den.
I’m somewhat guilty of the phrase “I’m sick of it” or I’m sick and tired of your bullshit” haha, sorry it sounded so offensive I know.
But on the lighter side, I am so much fond of sending him a text message while at work saying what I feel at a certain time like “I miss you”, “I am thinking of you” or simply “I love you” .
Good luck to your Sunday program and keep on inspiring people 😀
great tips momsie. nothing beats experience and your 33 years of marriage is a great source of wisdom to share to your readers. speaking of marriage, belated happy anniversary to you and papa. mwah!
Times are different. Today, we not only have to be good parents, we must be excellent ones…you and george profess to be such ! Love you my dear one.